February 11, 2007

same as divorce? Category: Life
In the past 3 months I've read a lot of books and articles, and talked to a lot of people. One thing I've noticed is the comparison of divorce to losing a spouse to death . I do recognize the similarities....both situations require you to learn how to live by yourself again. Possibly raise your kids alone. Face the holidays alone. Make decisions alone. And more.
BUT, as a widow, my husband was taken away from me without me being given a choice. I didn't get to sign a paper saying I agreed to this. THIS WAS NOT THE DAMN PLAN!!

~My kids don't get to see thair dad on the weekends or on holidays. They can't send him a valentine card in the mail; they get to put one on his grave instead.

~I don't get to send them to their dad's house and get a break. I have to take care of them 24 hours a day.

~I don't have the positive outlook of finding someone else someday.....I never wanted to spend my life with anyone but him.

~Divorced women can work fulltime and still receive child support. I don't get child support....I receive social secuity, which isn't enough to live on. But if I go back to work I'll quit getting it.

~I don't resent my husband or think about the bad parts of our marriage...I still love him and will forever miss him. And all I can remember are the good things and how awesome he treated me, and how I'll never have that again.

~I promise that if I had been given a choice or a paper to sign I would NOT have signed off on this.